Here is information from the American Academy of Pediatrics about depression and what to do if your child seems depressed.
Depression is not the same thing as sadness or grief. When children experience a difficult event, such as the loss of a pet or family member or the divorce of their parents, they may feel deeply sad and not be able to feel happy even when doing the things they usually enjoy. It is normal for grief to last for a while and then lessen, over time.
However, depression is a disorder of mood that causes sadness and/or other symptoms to be more intense or last longer than usual after a difficult event.
Depression can also occur without a triggering event. Children may have depression if their symptoms, which may include sadness, occur every day for more than 2 weeks.
Two common types of depression are major depressive disorder and persistent depressive disorder.
Major depressive disorder. A doctor or another licensed mental health professional diagnoses major depressive disorder when at least 5 symptoms of depression last for more than 2 weeks, on most days. (See What are common signs of depression?) Although major depressive disorder can be mild, moderate, or severe, all children with major depressive disorder tend to have difficulty managing everyday life.
Persistent depressive disorder. This type of depression is less severe, and children who have it may be able to manage their activities. However, they are not at their best and often feel down. Usually, a doctor diagnoses persistent depressive disorder when symptoms last for more than 1 year. A child with persistent depressive disorder may also have an episode of major depression at the same time.
Depression is one of the most common disorders in the United States.
Children. More children are being diagnosed with depression than in the past. This includes young children. Experts estimate that between 2% and 3% of children aged 3 to 11 years have depression. Although it is not common, children as young as 3 years have been diagnosed with depression. Depression in a young child is very concerning and can lead to more serious consequences.
Adolescents. As many as 1 in 5 adolescents has depression at some point during their teen years. Every year, about 1 out of 11 adolescents has an episode of major depression.
Children and adolescents often don't know how to describe what they are feeling, or they may not want to talk about their feelings. Here are some common signs of depression in children and adolescents.
Seems more irritable or angry
Lacks motivation to do things that are usually enjoyable
Has trouble focusing or making choices
Uses words such as "sad" or "bored"
Spends more time alone and less time with friends
Makes less eye contact than usual
Talks less than usual
Is spending more time using media
Cries more often
Has trouble falling or staying asleep
Sleeps more than usual
Eats more or less than usual
Has lost or gained a noticeable amount of weight
Has less energy than usual
Is failing or struggling at school
Is feeling worthless or guilty
Additional signs of depression common in adolescents include
Not feeling hopeful about the future
Lacking interest in personal grooming or appearance
Persistent irritability or anger
Substance use
The 2 most common signs of depression in children and adolescents are irritability and not feeling pleasure in activities they used to find to be fun.
If you suspect your child or teen may be depressed, it's important to openly talk with your child about what your child is feeling. Often children or adolescents do not bring up the topic of their feelings but may respond honestly if you ask directly. Regardless of what your child says, if you notice signs of depression for more than 2 weeks, talk with your child's doctor.
Your child's doctor has specific questionnaires and techniques for age-appropriate ways of talking with children and adolescents about feelings of sadness. Your child's doctor can help determine whether your child feels depressed. If your child has depression, the doctor may provide treatment or refer your family to a mental health specialist for treatment.
Although treatment of depression works, it takes time. Some children and adolescents get discouraged when they don't feel better right away. There are things you can do at home to help you, your family, and your child while you are waiting for an appointment or while the treatment is starting to work.
Educate yourself, other caregivers, and other family members. A child who feels depressed is not making up symptoms. What might look like laziness or irritability is a symptom of depression.
Help your child relax with physical, creative, nurturing, and meaningful activities.
Focus on your child's strengths, rather than areas that need improving, and provide verbal encouragement.
Talk with and listen to your child with love and support. Encourage your child to share their feelings by listening without judgment.
Help your child look at problems in a different, more positive way.
Break down problems or tasks into smaller steps so your child can be successful.
Let your child know that feelings of hopelessness are a symptom of depression and are not an accurate picture of reality.
Contact your child's doctor if you have any questions and visit www.HealthyChildren.org for more parenting information.
The information contained in this publication should not be used as a substitute for the medical care and advice of your pediatrician. There may be variations in treatment that your pediatrician may recommend based on individual facts and circumstances. The persons whose photographs are depicted in this publication are professional models. They have no relation to the issues discussed. Any characters they are portraying are fictional.
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